Anger - something to be aware of!
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems!
Anger is a natural reaction that we experience if we feel threatened or frustrated. It is the first emotion that we experience and the last one we learn to manage effectively.
Human infants begin to really display anger as early as 4 months old, and then as we get older we spend the rest of our lives denying it or suppressing it as a troublesome emotion.
There are believed to be 2 main types of anger:-
Destructive anger and Healing anger
Destructive anger is expressed in an unhealthy way and causes harm. For example, a person may act out aggressively towards others. The anger might also be turned inward, resulting in deliberate self-harm or substance use.
Healing anger is expressed when it arises - at whoever triggers it and the issue that triggered it.
What is the real cause of anger?
Feelings of anger arise due to how we interpret and react to certain situations. Everyone has their own triggers for what makes them angry, but some common ones include situations in which we feel: threatened or attacked. frustrated or powerless.
Some children are born irritable touchy and easily and that and these signs are usually present from a very early age.
Anger is often regarded as a negative situation we are taught that it’s alright to express anxiety and depression or other emotions but not to express anger. This results in a situation where we are not able to handle it or to use it constructively.
How we use anger is sometimes a destructive situation because research has found that letting rip often accelerates the anger and aggression but does nothing to help you (or the person you are angry with) to resolve the situation.
Therefore it is best to find out what has triggered your anger and when you know that develop the appropriate strategies to keep those triggers from sending you over the edge.
There are certain strategies that can be adopted that will help you to keep it at bay
such as: –
Anger is a natural reaction that we experience if we feel threatened or frustrated. It is the first emotion that we experience and the last one we learn to manage effectively.
Human infants begin to really display anger as early as 4 months old, and then as we get older we spend the rest of our lives denying it or suppressing it as a troublesome emotion.
There are believed to be 2 main types of anger:-
Destructive anger and Healing anger
Destructive anger is expressed in an unhealthy way and causes harm. For example, a person may act out aggressively towards others. The anger might also be turned inward, resulting in deliberate self-harm or substance use.
Healing anger is expressed when it arises - at whoever triggers it and the issue that triggered it.
What is the real cause of anger?
Feelings of anger arise due to how we interpret and react to certain situations. Everyone has their own triggers for what makes them angry, but some common ones include situations in which we feel: threatened or attacked. frustrated or powerless.
Some children are born irritable touchy and easily and that and these signs are usually present from a very early age.
Anger is often regarded as a negative situation we are taught that it’s alright to express anxiety and depression or other emotions but not to express anger. This results in a situation where we are not able to handle it or to use it constructively.
How we use anger is sometimes a destructive situation because research has found that letting rip often accelerates the anger and aggression but does nothing to help you (or the person you are angry with) to resolve the situation.
Therefore it is best to find out what has triggered your anger and when you know that develop the appropriate strategies to keep those triggers from sending you over the edge.
There are certain strategies that can be adopted that will help you to keep it at bay
such as: –
Breathing,
Looking at relaxing images,
Listening to gentle, soothing, calming music
Looking at relaxing images,
Listening to gentle, soothing, calming music
Once you adopt these techniques you can use them in any situation where you feel anger rising.
If you find that you are involved in a relationship with someone who is also “hot tempered“ then it may be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.
And finally here are some useful steps that you can try to help you defuse anger situations
“slow yoga like exercises which can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer“
“a visualisation experience using imagery from either your memory or your imagination“
“Repeat a calm word or phrase for example relax, take it easy, I am safe calm and comfortable”
And finally
“attempt to breathe deeply from your diaphragm because breathing from your chest will not relax you. Picture but your breath is rising from your gut“
If you practice these techniques daily you will learn to be able to use them automatically when you find yourself in a tense situation.
If you find that you are involved in a relationship with someone who is also “hot tempered“ then it may be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.
And finally here are some useful steps that you can try to help you defuse anger situations
“slow yoga like exercises which can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer“
“a visualisation experience using imagery from either your memory or your imagination“
“Repeat a calm word or phrase for example relax, take it easy, I am safe calm and comfortable”
And finally
“attempt to breathe deeply from your diaphragm because breathing from your chest will not relax you. Picture but your breath is rising from your gut“
If you practice these techniques daily you will learn to be able to use them automatically when you find yourself in a tense situation.
Thank you for joining me on this week's blog and taking the time to read this piece. I hope that you have enjoyed it!
Have a fantastic week.
Be safe, be careful and above all remember
Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!
DAve x
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